Books on Attachment

Understanding your attachment style can be a powerful first step in changing the patterns that show up in your relationships. These books are a great place to start.

Attached  —  Amir Levine & Rachel Heller

The most widely recommended starting point. Uses science to explain secure, anxious, and avoidant attachment styles — and how they shape your relationships day to day.

Best for: Understanding your attachment style

Hold Me Tight  —  Dr. Sue Johnson

Rooted in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), this book helps couples identify the negative cycles they get stuck in and find their way back to connection and intimacy.

Best for: Couples & marriage

Healing Your Attachment Wounds  —  Diane Poole Heller

A gentle, trauma-informed guide to healing relational wounds and moving toward secure attachment, with practical exercises throughout.

Best for: Healing & recovery

Wired for Love  —  Stan Tatkin

Explains how your partner's brain and nervous system work — and how that shapes conflict, security, and intimacy in your relationship.

Best for: Couples & deeper understanding

The Whole-Brain Child  —  Daniel J. Siegel & Tina Payne Bryson

Brings attachment and neuroscience together for parents. Helps you understand your child's developing brain and build a secure, connected relationship with them.

Best for: Parenting & attachment